What does it take to be a real man in this day and age? How can we as men show our masculinity without seeming too hostile, or cold hearted…or wimpy and indecisive.
There are 6 characteristics that define The Real Man.
Men are Decisive
Men understand the power of choice. He lives the life that he wants, and creates for himself. A real man can visualize a path of his life, and create that path, by making the right choices. A real man realizes that life becomes less productive when he fails to make important decisions. Let me set quickly set one thing straight though. A decision is not going to come right at you and most of the time, you won’t recognize a situation as a decision. Sometimes a decision will be in the form of an opportunity, that you should act on, or choose not to act on. Other times it will be an idea, that you should build upon, or choose to ignore.
Once a man makes a decision, he backs the decision, and focuses on the target, or goal of that decision. There is always a goal behind every decision. It defines why the decision was made. After a man has made up his mind, he will go through with the following events that take place after that choice. There is no guarantee that he will succeed, but a man will put forth his best effort in reaching that goal. A man doesn’t have to seek approval from other. He is the decider. But a man is still open to suggestions, it’s just that he can’t be persuaded from what he believes.
Men Put Relationships Second
A man will put his relationship second. He does not need to depend on a partner to be accepted in society. A real man values himself first, and loves himself first. He must love himself before he can love others, and he does. He is committed to his values, and ideals first, and lives by them. As soon as he begins to drift from these values, others will notice, and lose respect for him. Thus he becomes less of a man. The unyielding commitment to values is the core of the real man, and if he is truly committed to good solid values, and uses them to guide his endeavors, he will be more respected, and more apt to succeed.
Men are Confident
A man lives and breathes confidence. He is in control of his attitude. A real man will show confidence, not because he is cocky, or knows he will always succeed. He will do this because he knows people will see his confidence, and believe in him. He is not ignorant and still realizes there are risks, and that he could fail. But he does not show that there is a possibility for failure. A man can not be overcome by self-doubt. He knows that once he loses trust in himself, he will lose influence and direction. He is willing to give up only when it improves the future, but he won’t surrender to fear.
Men Show Love
Men show love actively. A man is first to speak in a conversation, and the first to say “I love you.” Men don’t wait for the other person to make the first move. He doesn’t hesitate. People don’t respond well to hesitation.
A real man lets his love flow onto others. His activeness spreads onto his peers, and makes others more productive and happy. He doesn’t feed off the energy of others, but instead creates his own energy. He is the energy transmitter, and this is his true self.
Men Don’t Hide Sexuality
A man doesn’t bottle up his sexuality. He is open with it. But he is not at the point of being too much of a tail chaser. He doesn’t care how others react to his behavior. He lets others react how they want and doesn’t avoid frightening other weak men. He channels his sexual energy to flow from the heart. He is respectful of women, and is willing to back off just as much as move forward.
Men Free Their Friends
If you have seen Ferris Beuller’s Day off, you probably didn’t notice what I did. The movie centralizes around Ferris, who is a very confident, well liked, and respected person in his school. His friend Cameron is quite the opposite. Throughout the whole movie, Ferris is constantly pushing his friend to live more out on the edge. Cameron is a very uptight guy, with strict parents, which have caused him to develop into a very emotionally controlled, uptight person. His best friend is so liberal, but equally caring, and helps him to become a freer, and more confident person. The thing is, that a person who seems uncaring, manipulative, and rebellious, is actually a very good friend, and a very real man.
