Overcome the Fear of Approaching Women
The absolute first thing that needs to be dealt with, is the fear of approaching women, if you have one. You need to become more comfortable when approaching and talking to her without letting your emotions take control of you. If you are uncomfortable on the inside, it is going to be hard to project a confident, comfortable outside attitude, for attracting a woman. The best way to do this is to set a goal in talking to 25 women over the course of two or three weeks. If you are too nervous just compliment them and walk away. Not in a creepy stalker way though. Also, if you want an amazing guide to attracting women, check out Guy Gets Girl which is a great and respected dating guide for men. If you haven’t heard of it you should really check it out.
Don’t Act Like You Are Interested Right Away
If you are in class, or at a gym, or wherever and you sit next to the potential person you are interested in, you should say hi, and then ignore her for a while. Don’t be rude, but don’t whip out your game immediately.
Once You Start Talking to Her Don’t Back Down
Attracting a woman can be tough. But once you can compliment a woman and keep your cool, you can try keeping eye contact with the woman for as long as you feel comfortable. If you can keep eye contact when talking to them, expect them to ask you something as you start walking away, if they show an interest in you. If she does you can start by asking her a few casual questions to start off your conversation. You can ask her if she is new to the area, or if she is here on business etc.. You can ask her name, or other simple things. After this you can ask her if she wants to go out to coffee or something later, and ask for her number.
The Inner Game is Just As Important As the Outer Game
It doesn’t matter if you are a professional bodybuilder, naturally handsome, or just have amazing genetics, you must have the right attitude, for attracting a woman. If you don’t have this then the looks, or size of your quadriceps and biceps is useless. Once you have built up your understanding of women, and you accomplish something every day that is out of your comfort zone, you can develop a solid inner game that women will find attractive.
Are You Going To Go For The Total Package?
You need to decide if you are attracting a woman that is complete. A complete woman is someone that is beautiful inside and out, has a nice personality, is intelligent, mature, and knows her place in the world. This is a kind of woman that you are probably not going to find hanging out at the pub, or local strip club. She will most likely be at the gym, or a yoga class. These kind of women want to end up dating a very complete confident man that can suit all her needs, so you need to be a very independent individual to succeed in these relationships.
Start It Off Good
When you approach a woman for the first time, you’re going to want that woman to remember you and be able to visualize the version of you in their mind. You want that version to be good. Making a good first impression will cause this. If you have a cocky and funny attitude, it is easier to start a good comfortable conversation. Just don’t act like someone you’re not. Don’t pretend to be someone else. Just act like an improved cocky, and funny version of you.
Never Stop Learning
As you interact with the woman you desire, you need to pick up on what works, and what doesn’t to continually improve yourself. Try to have fun in your conversations, and avoid feeling uptight and nervous. Once you learn to do this, repeat it over and over, and eventually being around women will be more fun and your confidence will become second nature, and you will be on your way to attracting a woman, that will hopefully make you very happy. Also don’t forget to check outGuy Gets Girl which will teach you the best ways you can become a more confident man, to get the girls of your dreams.
One time I was at the bar, and I saw this really hot Asian, I think Asians are super hot, because they are, if that makes sense, Anyway I start walking towards this Asian, and she was with her weird Spanish friend, who kept giggling the whole time (I could tell it was her because it was so loud and everyone could hear it. This one biker dude was just like who is gonna shut this b-word up. That was super loud too, I thought she would shut up after that, but she kept on giggling. It kind of reminded me of that talking dog on the Youtubes. You know that one that’s really annoying and if you heard a person that sounded like that you would just punch them in the face, but my mom taught me never to punch a girl, unless they know how to fight, and even then I wouldn’t hit a girl. They are like the delicate flowers of life.) Anyway’s back to my point. I was walking up to the Asian girl, trying to drown out the sound of her Spanish friend’s laugh with the sound of “I Want to Love You” by Akon (who is my favorite rapper, if you want to call him that. I don’t really know the difference between rap and whatever Akon is, even though I should. I’m a self-taught DJ who works at all kinds of clubs in Atlanta. I make bank, so I look good right now, by the way if you think I’m ugly, you’re wrong.) Anyway, I can’t hear this Spanish girl’s laugh (Later that night I taught the biker dude how to drown out her annoying voice.) anymore because I figured the secret to getting it out of my head. Thanks Akon. So, I’m sweating my ass off walking to towards this girl, and I’ve already had a few beers, you know, so I figured I was good to go. Boy, was I wrong. I got to the Asian girl, and said “hey, my albert name is hi” and then I was like “oh man, I just screwed this up big time” in my head, and then I passed out. I woke up in the hospital, and was freaking out because I wanted to know what happened with the Asian girl and her super giggly Spanish friend. The biker dude (who is my new best friend, by the way) comes in and I ask him what happened to the Asian girl. He says she left, and I got super upset cuz, man she was really hot. But he showed me that she had put her number in my pocket after I passed out. So, I just want to tell you everything in this article is wrong. When I try to pick up chicks now, I just act super nervous and pass out. I’ve gotten like 4 numbers this way. Anyway you can keep trying this weird stuff. I know what I’ll stick to.
I’m a girl and I must say these are some pretty good tips lol