Sex is supposed to be fun, but who can have fun when they are worried about getting STDs or getting pregnant? No one, that’s who. You can, however, have fun when you know you are protected from all of the harmful things that can occur during sex. You don’t want to deal with STDs and unexpected pregnancy, and you will have to your whole life, so that is why we must learn how to have safe sex.
Make sure you know who you are having sex with before you have sex with them. Are they clean? Remember you are going to be exchanging bodily fluids with this person, so it’s best to know for sure if they are clean or not. This is why random hook-ups can be so dangerous. You have no idea who that person is, what they have done with other people, how many other people they have done, and if they are clean or not. If you want to be extra careful make sure you know them, their friends, and possibly their family. If you are totally wasted at a bar or party, that is not the best time to be picking out a sexual partner. Try to have a friend there that will not let you leave with someone you just met, and you can do the same for them. Friends need each other’s backs.
The most important thing when learning how to have safe sex is using protection. Most girls nowadays take some sort of pill form of birth control. This is perfectly fine for preventing pregnancy, but what about diseases? You will need a barrier, such as a condom, to help prevent diseases from being spread from partner to partner. A condom should really always be used unless you know both you and your partner are free from diseases. If you have been dating someone who you have sexual relations with you should know if they have a form of disease or not. If they don’t then it is perfectly fine to have sex without a condom. Make sure you don’t keep a condom in your wallet because your body heat will wear it down and make it more vulnerable to breakage.
Before someone can they must first learn how to put on a condom properly. If you don’t know how, first you must pinch the tip on the condom. This is the collection area. Then roll the condom down the erect penis halfway and pinch the tip once more. You must make sure there is no air or it is likely to break. Then finish rolling the condom down to the base of the penis. After you are done, make sure you hold the base of the condom as you pull out. This way the condom will not slip off and cause a mess. After you have taken the condom off, tie the end, wrap it in a tissue, and throw it away.
When having anal sex be especially careful because you are more likely to do damage in this position. The skin inside the anus is thinner than making it easier to damage, which could lead to contracting a disease. If you try anal sex out make sure you use water-based lubricant and go gently. If you partner complains you need to stop. It can be extremely uncomfortable at times, so just try and make them comfortable. It is extremely important that you don’t put anything in the vagina after it has been in the anus. Bacteria will get into the vagina that you don’t want in there. You should also use a condom when having anal sex because you can still spread disease this way. There is also a rare chance that a person can become pregnant after having anal sex. If you don’t keep the area clean semen may get into the vagina. I wouldn’t worry too much about that because it is extremely unlikely to happen, but I am just warning you about it.
If you and your partner like to use sex toys be sure you take care of them. Keep them clean because if you don’t bacteria could grow on them. Make sure to wash them with disinfectant and dry them off. Store them in a sealed bag to keep out any other forms of bacteria. I do believe some stores sell wipes that you can use to clean them, but I also believe they are very expensive. If you take care of your sex toys you shouldn’t have to worry about anything though.
If you are having any other types of sex besides anal and vaginal, like oral, be sure to wear a condom too. Especially if you don’t know the person you are performing oral sex on, because HIV can travel through semen and get in any cuts or injuries in your mouth. If you know them and know they do not have any diseases you will be fine not wearing a condom.
Sex is fun, but it would be even more fun if you didn’t have to worry about anybody getting pregnant or contracting a disease. Following all of the above tips will make sure that you have a great time with no worries. I hope you learned how to have safe sex.
