Marriage; is it worth it? More and more people are starting to realize that it is not worth it. There are a number of reasons that a person should not get married. So, if you are asking yourself “Should we get married?” double check this list of reasons not to get married and then ask again. The reasons are in no specific order.
Both you and your partner will let yourselves go weight-wise. There have been many studies that prove that people will not take care of their bodies as much after they have gotten married. Women may gain more weight than men because of childbirth. Studies show that women will gain at least 15 pounds on average in the first 10 years of marriage, and that is without the help of childbirth.
If you get married you will no longer have any other options. No longer will you be able to go out to the bar and hang out with your buddies and flirt with the girls there. No more one night stands. No more flirting with coworkers. Trying to have options will land you in tons of trouble with your new partner. Do not try this unless you want to put your marriage in any sort of jeopardy.
One of the best reasons, in my own opinion, not to get married is the pure cost of the ceremony. Did you know the average wedding costs $27,000. That is a ton, especially in this economy. Being in debt is a great way to start out a new life. Now you also have to explain where all your money goes. You will probably end up getting into financial fights. And, divorce rates are extremely high nowadays. 50 percent of marriages end in divorce, I believe. I wonder why? This is where you will see your money getting flushed down the toilet. Marriage costs a lot. Ask any couple that has been recently married.
All marriage really is, is just a piece of paper. Do you want that piece of paper to tell you that you are legally bound to someone? Really? If you are dating someone, why don’t you just continue to date like that. Is there a problem with it? I don’ think there is, and this way you can save a ton of money and not be in debt like other couples that thought marriage was awesome.
Romance dies after you get married. Any couple that says that they are still spontaneous and romantic is most likely lying. You can kiss flowers and romantic notes goodbye. No more nights alone on the beach because now you have to take care of children. You can’t just hop onto a flight to Vegas for the weekend because now your money needs to be spent on bills. Married couples are definitely less romantic.
No more making decisions by yourself. You will need to start compromising with your partner on just about anything you do. Most importantly compromising on where your money goes. No longer will you be able to control every aspect of your life. Instead of doing what you want to do all the time you will now have to have your partners voice involved. Life is meant to be lived.
Marriage is most likely the end of your sex life. Don’t get me wrong there will still be sex, but not like it used to be. It will be extremely boring and the same position every time. The experimenting will end. It will rarely happen. Now people are too tired to have sex because they just spent a full day at work and they want their rest.
Marriage will most likely be the end of you taking risks. Now, while you are not married, if our take a risk and it fails only you will be hurt. As soon as you get married, you can’t take these risks anymore because you aren’t only hurting yourself. Why would you want to bring someone down with you? Unless, you don’t care about someone else’s feelings. That would be pretty selfish.
Remember that marriage is forever. “‘Til death do us part.” You will be waking up next to that person for the rest of your life, unless you are part of that 50 percent that gets divorced, which you might be. Think about 10 years ago. Did you like the same things you do now? Probably not. I think I made a pretty good case.
I’m not saying that you shouldn’t be with the person you love; I am just against the idea of marriage. To me, it is a stupid concept that couples feel the need to do because that’s what society wants. Wow, social conditioning. So, should we get married?
